Thursday, March 26, 2009

I've Been A Bad Bloggy Friend


I used to be a faithful bloggy friend. I did. I used to read every post that all my bloggy friends posted and I tried to comment on every post I read. But then life threw some curve-balls at me. And I started some new projects that have been taking a lot of my time. I found it was becoming increasingly difficult to keep up with the 125 blogs I was subscribed to. Many of whom publish a new post every day. Some more than once a day. I've been stressed. Overwhelmed. And I started to drop off on the reading and commenting. And I haven't read any posts in the last several days. My Google Reader currently has 905 unread posts and the number keeps getting higher.

I'm feeling incredibly guilty about it too. Because you all keep reading my blog and commenting and I'm not commenting on yours. And then I wonder if I should go back to having no comments, to make it fair. (though I very much enjoy reading the comments I get)

And then I wonder if I should keep my blog going. Or cut back. You may have noticed that I stopped writing on weekends for the most part.

For now I've decided to keep my blog going. Because I love it. And I love you guys. And being able to document my life this way helps me to process and deal with life. And the support I've received from you all has meant more to me than you know.


I don't know when or even IF things will lighten up, allowing me to be a good bloggy friend again.

If you decide to keep reading my blog, thanks for sticking with me even though I'm a bad bloggy friend right now. If you decide to stop reading, I completely understand.

Whew! I feel a lot better after having gotten this off my chest.

Now don't forget to leave me a comment.



40 comments:

  1. Blog without obligation!! Don't apologize for lack of posts or comments. If someone is only reading your blog or commenting because they want comments or love in return, then they weren't a good friend to begin with...and good riddance!! :)

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  2. I'm still here. I love your blog. :) And if nothing I say here makes sense, I am still working on my first cup of coffee....I can't help myself, I'll keep coming back!

    :)

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  3. You aren't a bad bloggy buddy. No way. I'm in a slump right now, so you just helped me to not feel as guilty. BAHAHAHAHA See, that's a good thing:) I love reading your blog-- and it's not JUST because of Twilight-- you love big bunnies, and kitties and your kids make me smile. THAT makes you a good bloggy buddy:)

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  4. I'm with Allison. Blog without obligation! Blog for you. You have too many other things going on to spend time feeling bad.
    One of the great things about friendship is that it's give and take. You've been dealing with a ton of junk. It's your turn to take a little while your friends keep giving ;)

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  5. Girl I LOVE your blog! It gets my day started. Take the time you need for you and the blogs you love will still be there when/if you have to read them!!! xoxoxoxo

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  6. I think I need to cut and paste this post into my blog...

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  7. I don't see a lot of men that make comments here but I found your blog through Marshall's and now both of you are a must read every morning for me. I do enjoy reading about the lady in the purple house. Its a fun read every morning and helps start my day with a smile so please don't stop writing. I feel that you are a close and strong family and will come through these times with flying colors. Kepp up the great work.

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  8. Well, I have been wondering.......... :) Hey, you have a few things going on. I come here to laugh and follow along!

    Have a great day!

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  9. Blogging Without Obligations.

    I love it when the blog owners I read are blogging less. I figure it means that there real life is starting to take over! I started blogging when I first left the professional world to home educate my oldest daughter. My blog was how I had fellowship with other women. As I met more real life SAHM, my blog necessarily suffered a loss. I love my virtual friends, I know how intimate online relationships can be (my husband and I met on line)... but real life friends can babysit your kids when you need to go to the doctor, make you a meal, have a cup of coffee with you and do your child's hair for prom.

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  10. LOVE that pic! Where do you get these cute pix from?

    If that makes you a bad bloggy friend I'm the same. I've been SOOO busy! :)

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  11. Don't stop blogging... Blogging is about freedom not restrictions! Do it when you like however you like. Who knows some newby may read it from start to finish one night and feel inspired!!!

    Do you think its FB? LOL. I noticed I like the ideal of saying less. So I figured out how to Twitter my Facebook status if only I could Facebook my blogspot post!!!

    I'm working on it!


    Robbin

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  12. No worries. At all.

    Now, go to your reader. Scroll down to ShortonWords. And click on "Mark All As Read." There. I just lightened your load by 1%. :-)

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  13. I feel the same way sometime! I recently cleared out some of the blogs in my reader and have narrowed it down to 111 blogs... that number increases everyday. It can become quite much. I keep up as best I can and if I get really behind I just hit 'Mark All Read'. I don't want the stress of feeling like I have to do something. I do it because I enjoy it. We read your blog and comment because we enjoy it - not because we expect you to read every single one of our posts! Life is more important than blogging... I know... that is a bit of a shocking statement.... but it is. You must stick with the blogging though... even if it is only the occasional post. We'd miss you!

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  14. That whole part about "I may be cutting back, but maybe not because I love it" That could have been my next post.
    Whatever. Don't apologise.

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  15. Ditto on all the other comments. I'd miss your blog terribly if you gave it up.

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  16. as long as it's not something I said! :-)

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  17. You know we love you no matter what! Please don't stop. I don't post regularly at all. Do it when you can, we'll be here for you!

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  18. I like what the first commenter said. If they are just commenting to get comments then ??? I love you and your blog and your insight, humor, perspective, honesty, etc.

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  19. I could care less b/c I talk to you on the phone and I don't need to read your blog b/c I already know you.

    And all I care about is that you made your $$$ to our well.

    :) xo

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  20. YOUR BLOG IS AWESOME! It encouraged me to start my own!! ^-^ please don't stop. I'm sure all of your readers enjoy reading your posts as much as I do!

    Keep up the god work!!!

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  21. fair schmair.
    i gave up trying to comment on other people's blogs long ago. i still do it when i can, but trying to keep it quid pro quo is enough to make a person crazy.

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  22. It's not a tit for tat kind of thing. I get life being in the way of everything.... If I only read blogs where their authors commented, well... I'd have a whole lot more free time. I read blogs because I enjoy them. The additional comments are just a bonus. But really, I want people to read my blog because they like it not because I comment on their blogs!

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  23. That's it. I'm leaving.

    Takin' my ball, goin' home.

    What do you mean you haven't read all the earth shattering, mind-blowing, must-know information I've posted over at lwm3b the last week or so?

    Apparently, you didn't get the memo that the rotation of the earth is actually dependent upon my blog.

    Or not.

    Love ya' gf. And it has nothing to do with the frequency, quality, length, appropriate use of prepositions, frequent mention of RPattz or overall likeability of your comments.

    Ahhhh'll beeee bbaaaccccchhhhh.

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  24. oh julie (the first time i typed that it said ho holie--had to move my chubby fingers, lol!) don't you worry! YOu are going thru crazy times, and need support , not guilt. :) I am a REALLY bad bloggy friend..I am completely sporadic in reading 'my' blogs..but hey, that's all I can do. Hang in there, keep writing and sharing your wacky pics! Life WILL settle in again, God DOES have something for you guys. love darci
    (ps, I am planning to go private i think, so if you do start reading again and can't get to it, just send me an email. :)

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  25. I don't think there is anything to feel guilty about. That is alot of Stinking posts and lots of time. I don't think any one is mad :)

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  26. LOL...no prob! We all go through stages. There are some days where I read none...and other times where I read my faves (yours included). So no biggie.

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  27. I've not been the best bloggy friend either...I think that everyone is going through that. There's no standard on how much you have to blog or how many other blogs you visit! It's all for fun, remember? Regardless, I'll still be readin'!

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  28. I'm glad you posted. I thought maybe it was something I said. No worries. And the same goes both ways. We're here for you even when we don't comment on your blog!

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  29. You are allowed time out you know! I haven't blogged all week due to personal reasons but now I will blog lots, but then something else will come up and generally I blog when I can. If people don't like that ... well tough, this is me and this is what I do. Works for me!

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  30. your blog is so pretty now, i stop in when i need a dose of purple :)

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  31. Hi Julie

    Okay.. so you have been BAD! :)
    It happens to the best of us. I have gotten overwhelmed too but now I just make it a point to visit everyone at least once a week instead of trying to get everyone every day which was NUTS! Also I never post on the weekend and yesterdays Friday post.. well it just had to be done.
    Don't worry girl.. I'm not going anywhere but you best pop in once and a while or I am gonna find that purple house of yours and kidnap your bunnies!

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  32. Please don't ever stop blogging. You make me laugh out loud every day and I need that!

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  33. I don't get to commenting very often either - and I blame it all on using Bloglines since commenting would mean multiple extra clicks, and who has time for that!?

    But - I still read your blog. And if you choose to pop into mine occasionally, I promise I'll never start posting every day...:-)

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  34. (((Hugs))))
    Julie, I don't hold it against you that you NEVER comment on my blog...oh wait I DON'T HAVE A BLOG!

    See? No problem. Your friends are there for you. I love your blog, but I don't always comment ;) But I'm here lurking away and besides, if you need me, you have my phone number!

    Don't worry! Do what you need to do to keep your life in order.

    ((((more hugs))))
    Wendy

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  35. Hey,

    Been thinking about you! Wanted to stop by and say hi. Been a bit stressful around here as well.

    Hugs to all of you!

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  36. Don't sweat it girl! We all love you and ya know we aren't going anywhere. Good luck with all the chaos.

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  37. If you quit blogging, then what will we all read on funny friday and wacky wednesday??? Please don't quit. That would be silly.
    Katy

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  39. You are my original blog role model. I will always keep thinking of you and wishing you and your family the best, even if you never blog again. If you go away and suddenly pop up on your blog or my blog 10 years from now, I will be so happy to hear from you. You are more than entitled to slack on blogging; you have a lot going on and I hope that things work out the way you want them to, soon.

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