Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Wacky Wednesday #31


Oh I know it's not Wednesday yet, but I have a very good reason for posting this today instead. You see Wednesday is.... Nah. You'll have to wait and see.

But today is all about Santa. And why we don't do Santa. That's right. We don't do Santa in our family. It doesn't hurt that all of our kids are terrified of anyone dressed up like Santa. Or anyone dressed up in a costume, for that matter.

I was not raised with Santa either. My mom comes from Amish and Mennonite roots and we never grew up celebrating the secular aspects of holidays. The most we'd get as decoration at Halloween was some Indian Corn hanging from the front door. So, at Christmas time we did a Christmas tree and decorations, but no Santa, reindeer, or snowmen. Christmas was always a time for celebrating Christ's birth. Oh I heard the Santa story and learned the songs in school, but I never felt any warm fuzzies toward him. Still don't. Though I want to make it clear that I have nothing against anyone who does have warm fuzzies toward Santa. We can totally still be friends. Even if you have a huge animatronic, singing Santa that scares me.

When it came time to raise a family, Marshall and I decided to keep Santa out of our Christmases too and instead focus on Christ. Our kids know the Santa story, and have fun singing the songs, but they know he's not real. Don't worry, I've explained to them that other kids like to believe he's real and they are FORBIDDEN to say otherwise to any of their little friends. So far, so good.

Even though we don't celebrate Santa, he is still occasionally mentioned in our household at Christmastime. One year when Haven was 5, Marshall had been working every day and long hours for almost the whole month of December. Haven had gone weeks without ever seeing his daddy. As a result, he was acting out. Big time. I reached a point one day where I'd had enough. I bent down and looked in Haven's eyes and said, "You are SO lucky there is no such thing as Santa. Because if Santa was real, you'd be getting a stocking full of coal this Christmas instead of presents!"

Probably not one of my better mothering moments.

22 comments:

  1. that photo is too funny :) i'd be scared of santa too!

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  2. Ditto with our family. To the T.

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  3. I have a theory that Santa was created by frustrated parents who wanted to say that very thing to their kids. I haven't decided yet if we'll do Santa around here. It certainly has it's appeal. (evil laugh and hand wringing)

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  4. I'm learning so much about you Julie!!! But it does stink to not be able to pull the "santa's watching" line! You could just say that "the cullens are watching"! :)

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  5. Hehe. Perfect picture for the post! Your story could be our story. Well, except for the Amish thing. My Mom started in the summer about Santa's elves watching ... oh yeah, she milked that concept for all its worth!! Because we don't do Santa, it has cost us Christmas with my brother's family - who are convinced they must keep their innocent kiddos away from my kiddos who are in the "know" (but like yours, have been forbidden from truth-speaking in this particular area). So, anyway .... Merry Christmas to you and your delightful family!!

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  6. We don't 'do' Santa either... my parents were always straight with us. So now, people (mostly grandparents)get down on their knees in front of our girls and ask in those sickly sweet voices, "Are you excited for Santa?" and my girls just stare back, blank faced.

    I don't even bother explaining it .. I just let it slide. And we rush past those mall Santa's. They freak me out, big time!

    Love that picture! She's not having any of it, is she? lol =-)

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  7. I'm ashamed to say I've gone the opposite way and use the fat old elf for child discipline, "If Santa is watching...". I've warped my kids. completely.
    Great picture!!

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  8. I grew up with the whole Santa thing, and looking back realize that we didn't emphasis Christ as much as we should have (grew up holiday Catholics!)...now that I personally understand the season, I treasure it as Christ's birth; however, I do decorate...just not with huge animatronic Santas!

    Merry Christmas

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  9. great pic! it's the same in our house..and our kids, too, are warned against saying anything about santa to those who believe. :) Merry Christmas!!

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  10. Found you through Beth's blog...that is too precious of a picture. We don't do Santa either but somehow my 5 dd has decided she wants to with our without us...isn't that funny?

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  11. I like the way we do it in Norway, where you have the various farm's "nisser" (little santas - sort of like little elves) doing the job, and since this generally involves the neighbor's teenage boy dressing up in old clothing with a mask, any kid over 5 knows that it's not for real.

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  12. That picture is hilarious! My kid is the opposite, she runs to all "characters" (Elmo, Dora, etc) and was pretty much the same with Santa. She doesn't know about him bringing presents though. We are still kinda unsure how much we are going to emphasize Santa... but I do know we want to emphasize Jesus' birth and Light coming into a world full of darkness. I want to our kids to remember the Hope that we have, more than the gifts we got.

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  13. That is so funny! Love it.

    We do it for Dec 6, the European way, Santa (St Nick) comes and brings presents to good kids in their boots that are left in the window... it takes the pressure off of anything Santa!

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  14. Hello to my twin sister separated at birth- except we go further than you. We don't even have a tree or presents at our house- we do have presents with our cousins at Grandma's, though.
    Also, there is no easter bunny (We celebrate Passover) or toothfairy.
    And you though you were over the edge....

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  15. What a cute picture. Before I read the post I thought, "Now what is Santa doing giving Marlie a shot?" Obviously, I've been without small children and have worked with patients for too long.

    I need a nap!

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  16. What do you mean Santa's not real?

    BTW - you look FABULOUS in that photo...

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  17. AWWW, Bless her heart!! I was that way. I didn't like him. And, I don't like people acting like their costume on Halloween. I understand how she feels! :( awwww. . .

    ps-you look beautiful!!! :)

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  18. That was Ali by the way. I just couldn't remember my password.

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  19. Because I was raised in a wishy-washy Christian family, we did celebrate Christmas with Santa. We always got gifts from "him." As a believing adult, I had some trouble with the Santa thing. When the kids came along we did Santa in a kinda wishy-washy way. :) I did tell the kids that he was a very nice man, who celebrated Christ's birth by giving gifts, symbolizing the gift Christ gave of everyone who wants to receive it.

    My daughter never bought the Santa thing. She knew it was us. My son, on the other hand, really didn't want to know that he wasn't "real" until he was about 8 years old. :)

    Merry Christmas, one and all.

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  20. I say congratulations to you for keeping it out of your life! Plus, your children don't have to be damaged by those santa photos every year. Have a very merry Christmas!!

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  21. I popped on over here on your link on my friend Jenni Jiggity's blog and we pretty much do the same as you do concerning Santa. Although I do enjoy Ms. Jiggity's Santa videos! However, I am very very glad he doesn't live here and hope my mother never finds her blog, because I can see her deciding that A Giant Singing Santa is just what my Santa deprived home needs...

    And I am ROFL laughing at your "not better mothering moment" because those same words may or may not have come out of my mouth at some point in time...

    Anyway, your blog is great, and happy birthday to all of the birthday celebrators in your home this week!

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  22. You look so pretty in this picture! I think it's pretty cool your kids know Santa isn't real. We bought each of our kids one present this year and we hope to continue to emphasize the importance of Christmas. Good job Mom & Dad!

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