Friday, December 19, 2008

The Boy Has Decided

Since we brought Marlie home from Ethiopia in 2006, we've been involved in the local Ethiopian adoption community. We've met and become friends with many other families who have adopted children from Ethiopia. Not long after we brought Marlie home, Haven announced that he wanted to marry her. When he was informed that he could not marry his own sister (this isn't My Big Redneck Wedding), he resolved to marry someone with brown skin who was beautiful like his sister.

About a year ago, the Ethiopian daughter (Dila) of our friends decided she is going to marry Haven when she grows up. At the next social gathering our families both attended, she made a point to inform Marshall and Haven of her decision. Surprisingly, Haven did not run away screaming upon hearing her plans. He simply tucked the information away and decided to think about it. Every now and again I would bring up Dila's plans to Haven, to try to embarrass him. It didn't work. He would simply look at me with a thoughtful look on his face and say, "I haven't decided yet."

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, when Haven was helping Marshall put the Christmas lights on the house. Haven was talking about Star Wars. (again)

Haven: "I think I'd like to have a room in my house that's just for all my Star Wars stuff."

Marshall: "Oh really?"

Haven: "That is, if it's ok with Dila. Cause I think I'd like to marry Dila. She's just the kind of lady I'm looking for. Cause I want to marry a lady with brown skin and she's very brown skinned. She loves God, doesn't she?"

Marshall: "I don't know."

Haven: "Well I'll have to wait until she's older."

Marshall: "To ask her to marry you?"

Haven: "No, to ask her if she loves God."

Incidentally, Dila recently called Haven on the phone. It was his very first phone call from a girl. He was so embarrassed, he talked very quietly and mostly mumbled.

Dila and her family are coming over to our house for a visit the day after Christmas. It has been a while since we last got together with them. Marshall and I are pretty excited because we really like Dila's parents. I think it's safe to say that Haven is "pretty excited" too.

I wonder when Haven plans to tell Dila the good news.

23 comments:

  1. That is adorable. Wouldn't that be funny if they really did end up getting married? You never know...

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  2. OMG,

    That is sooo cute that Haven is really taking this matter seriously. And he wants to make sure she loves God...how cute!

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  3. Oh how sweet and innocent! Nick is proposing daily to Tessa and she always screams NO in his face (like she knows what marraige even is)!

    Havens face is so sweet - I can just picture him trying to talk on the phone!

    What a fun post your visit will make!!

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  4. Wow - such a thoughtful, mature son you have there! You and Marshall must be doing lots of things right with him ;-)

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  5. That is so precious and don't you just love how they ponder things when they do.

    I kinda like the idea of "arranged marriage" myself. ;)

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  6. Awww...so sweet. The innocence of kids.

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  7. Awwww... how sweet.

    You'll have to let us know how the wedding plans go ;)

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  8. I love the Christmas tree moment! Priceless!

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  9. Too cute. I think arranged marriages would work way better then this system I've been following. My mom always says "nope not him" I should/should've listened lol.

    Robbin

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  10. It says so much about you and Marshall and what you have instilled in him that he is firstmost considering her love of God. That's such a gift you have given him... he sounds like a remarkable young boy. Yes, the "force" is strong in this young one...

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  11. That just might be the cutest story ever! How old is Dila?

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  12. so super cute, oh my, do tell details when she comes...

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  13. Hi Julie...
    How sweet this post was!!!

    I just wanted to stop in and say Merry Purple Christmas!!! I am going to be soooo busy in the next few days and I didn't want to miss you!!!!!!!!

    Jill:)

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  14. Aww .. what a sweetie! Your little man has great priorities =-)

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  15. How sweet! And I love the picture of him. He sounds like a very sweet boy!

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  16. Oh that has me giggling and smiling. What a sweetie! Just make sure he knows about all the other important aspects to marriage ;)

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  17. That's too funny! I love his reasoning for wanting to marry her. Oh and the fact that he used the word, "lady" makes him a really cool kid.

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  18. OH, Julie, how sweet. And such a "Haven" thing to do! Now I need to see a picture of her so I can approve too.(Like I have a say! hahahaha)

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  19. Our 11 year old has his first crush, too. And it is reciprocated. And that is just fine with me, because even though she isn't brown skinned she is beautiful, she loves God, and she is respetful to her mom and dad.

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  20. Oh my, this is terribly sweet but also funny. He is taking this very serious. Is he going to call her father first? LOL. It would be an adorable love story if they do end up together one day (you know you've thought this).

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  21. Don't they just make you love them more with stuff like this?

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