Monday, June 25, 2007

Coming Out Of The Closet


About a week and 1/2 ago, our daughter came out of the closet.

She came out of OUR closet, to be exact, where she has been laying her head at night and for naps since we brought her home last August. Wait... before anyone calls the authorities... I must say our closet is more like a dressing room. It’s the size of a bedroom, has a window and plenty of air circulation.

We originally decided to put her in our closet so we had easy access to her if she needed us in the middle of the night... and the fact that the nursery was being occupied by Seamus. The transition to a new baby sister was really hard on Seamus, so we wanted to change as little as possible for him. That and I liked keeping Seamus in jail his crib. So he stayed in the nursery, Haven stayed in his room and Marlie stayed in our closet. The 4th bedroom... that’s a dedicated exercise room with a murphy bed for when we have overnight guests.

We decided after almost 10 months of this arrangement, we were ready to make some changes. We had the nursery completely re-painted, took down the old furniture and replaced it with new, girly furniture. We took Seamus’ toys out of the nursery and put in Marlie’s toys. New window treatments, pictures on the walls, etc. Seamus continued to sleep in this now very girly room for two more weeks until we were ready to move everyone to their new accommodations. He didn’t seem to mind the changes, was very easy going and continued to sleep just fine with the girly room makeover. Then came the day.... we decided to move Marlie into the nursery on the same night we moved Seamus to a big boy bed (bottom bunk) in Haven’s room. Again, with a little help from Benadryl, all three kids magically slept very well on the first night of the new arrangement.

It’s been a week and 1/2 now with the new arrangement. I can actually sleep all night now. I’m a light sleeper, and that little stinker would make noise in her sleep ALL night long. I can hang up my clothes in my closet at night, instead of draping them over the chair in our bedroom. I can now get ready in the morning with the light on in my room. I’m sure everyone that has to look at me is thankful for that too.

The new arrangement has been more of an adjustment for Haven than anyone else. He had been looking forward to sharing his room with Seamus for a long, long time. He knew this was the eventual plan, but he has been asking for Seamus to share a room with him since last summer. The only hitch is that Haven usually wakes up earlier than Seamus, and Seamus is a very light sleeper. Much of the time he wakes up when Haven is getting dressed, though sometimes Haven is able to sneak out of the room without waking him. A couple of days ago, I congratulated Haven on doing such a good job sneaking out of his room. Without hesitation he said, “Four out of the last seven days, I have been able to get out of my room without waking Seamus up.” Then he continues.... “Mama? Sharing a room with Seamus is different than I thought it would be. I thought it would be really fun because we could stay up all night and talk. But I’m so tired at night. I just want to go to sleep, but he keeps trying to talk to me and I just want him to be quiet.” For now after we put them down at night, there’s a whole lot of, “D....A...D...D...Y!!!!!!! Seamus keeps talking!!!! Seamus keeps touching toys and kicking the top bunk! Seamus is getting out of his covers!”

Marlie seems thrilled with her new room and her new bed. Seamus loves sleeping in a “big boy” bed and sharing a room with Haven. Haven will need some time to adjust.

Marshall and I are thrilled to have our closet and privacy back again. Who knew life would get so much better once our daughter came out of the closet?

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